Life Cycle Events

Congregation Beth Ami believes that the most meaningful Jewish practices are those rooted deeply in tradition, that express the vitality of our contemporary world and reflect the personality of individuals and families. We are available to help guide you and officiate at your lifecycle events. Please contact the Beth Ami office for information and appointments.



The arrival of a new baby is a cause for rejoicing, not only by the immediate and extended family, but also by the Congregation and the community at large. A new child represents a world of possibilities and promise, and everyone at Congregation Beth Ami is happy to share in this Simcha.

If you are expecting a child, whether through birth or adoption, our staff can assist you with ritual and pastoral needs.


Eight days after the birth of a son (barring any medical need), parents enter their sons into the covenant between the Jewish people and God through the ritual of brit milah, a religious circumcision. This practice traditionally began with Abraham.

The brit milah is a positive commandment of the Torah, and is carried out even if the eighth day falls on Shabbat, a Festival, or even Yom Kippur. The brit milah (also known as a bris), is performed by a mohel (religious specialist in circumcision) in the home or the synagogue. The ceremony consists of a blessing recited by the mohel upon performing the brit milah, blessings recited by a parent or parents, and a blessing in which the boy is given his Hebrew name. Many families share a festive se’udat mitzvah (sacred meal following a mitzvah or joyous event) after the ceremony.

Following the brit milah, it is customary to invite the family to the synagogue for an aliyah(“ascent” to the Torah), during which time the baby is introduced to the greater community and offered a blessing.

Members may arrange for a Brit Milah for their new son at the family’s home or in the synagogue.


Traditionally, in Ashkenazi communities, daughters were welcomed into the community at the synagogue. A father was honored with an aliyah, a prayer was said for the health of the mother and daughter, and the girl was named. At Congregation Beth Ami, mothers and fathers are called to the Torah for an aliyah with the baby girl. Mothers may also choose to recite birkat hagomel, the blessing said upon coming through a dangerous experience.

Today, there are covenant and naming ceremonies that may be performed in the synagogue or the home that we can assist you with. We encourage families to draw on the wealth of innovative ritual and liturgy available in designing a ceremony that is personally meaningful. There is no prescribed time for holding a covenant ceremony for a daughter; many families choose a time that is most convenient to gather relatives and friends. We suggest that you not wait too long, for this ritual is intended to both name the child and welcome her into the covenant of the Jewish people.

A baby girl’s proud parents bring their daughter to the bimah on Shabbat, for a special blessing and ritual naming by the Rabbi.

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Please visit the Education page for this topic .


A Jewish wedding is a beautiful and life-affirming experience. While steeped in tradition, the individual wishes of couples make it extremely important to talk to Rabbi Miller directly rather than going by a list published here. As a member of United Synagogue, Congregaion Beth Ami is not authorized to perform marriages between non-Jews or between a Jew and a non-Jew, but we offer help with conversion as well as general information for interfaith couples, and a warm welcome to all couples both before and after the ceremony. The Celia Gurevitch Library at CBA has an extensive section on marriage and weddings of all kinds. Jewish gay and lesbian couples are encouraged to celebrate their auf rufs (a special honor given to the couple during Shabbat services) and weddings at Congregation Beth Ami. Our congregation has embraced the changes the Conservative movement has made to further welcome gays and lesbians into the community, adopting Rabbis Elliot Dorff, Daniel Nevins and Avram Reisner’s teshuvah, “Homosexuality, Human Dignity and Halakhah” (accepted by The Committee on Jewish Law and Standards [CJLS] of the Rabbinical Assembly in 2006) which argues for the full normalization of the status of gay and lesbian Jews. Under this ruling, Beth Ami upholds that gay and lesbian Jews may be ordained as clergy and their marriages are officially recognized.




It is a tradition to celebrate a new house with a special dedication ceremony — traditionally within 30 days of moving in.

Chanukat HaBayit ceremonies can be as simple as merely affixing a mezuzah and reciting the requisite two blessings. Or they can involve singing, discussion, and feasting along with themezuzah hanging. Any member of a household can affix a mezuzah alone. However, why not make the occasion a bigger simcha (celebration) by gathering family and friends to mark the moment with you.


mezuzah (which literally means “doorpost”) is comprised of a covering, in the shape of a box or cylinder, containing a klaf, or parchment, on which the following Torah passages are written:

“Hear O Israel, Adonai is our God, Adonai is One. You shall love Adonai with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your power. These words which I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them to your children and you shall speak about them when you dwell in your house, when you travel on the road, when you lie down and when you arise. You shall bind them as a sign on your arm and they shall be a reminder between your eyes. You shall inscribe them on the doorposts of your home and your gates.
[Deuteronomy 6:4-9]


And it shall happen, if you obey my commandments which I command you today, to love Adonai your God with all your heart and all your soul that I will give the rains of the land in its proper time, the light rains of autumn and the heavy rains of spring, and you will gather your grain, your wine and your oil. I will give grass in your fields for your livestock. You will have enough to eat and you will be satisfied. Guard yourselves, lest your hearts lead you astray and you serve other gods and bow to them. For Adonai will then become angry with you and will close the heavens and withhold the rain, and the land will not produce its bounty. You will quickly be lost from upon the good land that Adonai has granted you.

Therefore, place these words on your hearts and on your souls. Bind them as a sign on your arms and let them be a reminder between your eyes. Teach them to your children. Speak about them when you dwell in your house, when you travel on the road, when you lie down and when you arise. Inscribe them on the doorposts of your houses and your gates. So that you and your children may live many years on the land that Adonai promised to your ancestors, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth.”
[Deuteronomy 11:13-21]

sofer (scribe) writes the text of the mezuzah in the same way and script as a Torah scroll.


The meanings ascribed to mezuzot are many and varied. Though there are tales of amezuzah protecting a house, the prevalent view is that it protects us from “missing the mark” as we attempt to live good and just lives. Maimonides wrote, “By the commandment on the mezuzah, man is reminded, when entering or departing, of God’s unity, and is stirred into love for God. He is awakened from his slumber and vain worldly thoughts to the knowledge that nothing endures in eternity like knowledge of the Rock of the World. This contemplation brings him back to himself and leads him onto the right path.”

Today we hang mezuzot to identify our homes as Jewish homes, and to remind us that our homes should be filled with the holiness of Jewish living and of shalom bayit — peace in the home.


Mezuzot and scrolls are sold in the Beth Ami gift shop, as well as in Judaica stores and online.


It is customary to hang a mezuzah on the doorpost of the front door, but also on the door of each room in the home and place of business (including the basement, attic, and garage and excluding bathrooms and closets). The following brachot are recited immediately before hanging the mezuzah:

Baruch ata Adonai
Eloheynu Melech HaOlam
asher kideshanu bemitzvotav vitzivanu likboa mezuzah
Blessed is Adonai,
Sovereign of the Universe,
Who sanctifies us with the commandment to affix the mezuzah.

Baruch ata Adonai
Eloheynu Melech HaOlam
sheheheyanu vekeyemanu vehigianu lazman ha zeh.

Blessed is Adonai,
Sovereign of the Universe,
Who has given us life, sustained us, and enabled us to reach this moment.

(Affix the mezuzah)

  • The mezuzah is affixed in a slanted position with the top pointed toward the inside of the room, in the upper third of the doorpost on the right as one enters.
  • If more than one mezuzah is being affixed at one time, only one blessing is recited.
  • If a mezuzah is being affixed in an archway, no blessing is recited.
  • Additional blessings, prayers, readings, and songs may be added at this point for your ownChanukat Habayit.
  • Ess a bissel. (Eating at this point is not mandatory, but extremely traditional.)

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Chevra Kadisha of Sonoma County

“To Honor the Dead and Strengthen the Living”
Providing ritual cleansing and preparation
of the departed for traditional Jewish burial
Shomrim (watchers) also provided

Please note that virtual substitutions for the following practices are in place during the pandemic.

The Jewish way of dealing with death is one part of a larger philosophy of life in which all people are viewed with dignity and respect. Even after death, the body, which once held a holy human life, retains its sanctity. Our sages have compared the sacredness of the deceased to that of an impaired Torah scroll, which although no longer usable, still retains its holiness. In Jewish tradition, therefore, the greatest consideration and respect is accorded the dead.

Jewish law and tradition have endowed funeral and mourning practices with profound religious significance. To this end, Jewish funerals avoid ostentation; family and visitors reflect in dress and deportment the solemnity of the occasion; flowers and music are inappropriate; embalming and viewing are avoided; and interment takes place as soon as possible after death.

Funerary customs are traditionally supervised in Jewish communities by a chevra kadisha, a holy society, comprised of volunteers to aid the bereaved and to ensure that appropriate practices are followed. Assisting in funeral and burial preparations is a highly-valued mitzvah. It is a chesed shel emet, a true act of kindness performed without ulterior motive, for the dead cannot repay this service.

When a member of a community dies, it is the community’s responsibility to lovingly assist the deceased’s family in this final act of respect. A traditional funeral includes taharahtachrichim, a closed wooden coffin, and a Jewish service devoid of flowers and instrumental music.

Our Sonoma County Chevra Kadisha — made up of men and women from each of the Sonoma County congregations — is prepared to assist families in making arrangements with a funeral home, and to advise them concerning traditional practices and requirements.

Please consider participating. There’s always a need for concerned and interested volunteers to help with:

  • Funeral arrangements
  • Shmira
  • Taharah
  • Cemetery arrangements
  • Condolence meals
  • Shiva minyamim

Please contact us in your time of need:
Nancy Dotti (707) 322-1631
Marc Bernstein (707) 481-0780
Patty Bernstein (707) 953-4385

Beginnings of the Chevra Kadisha in Sonoma County essay by Miriyam Gevirtz: On the Beginnings of the Chevra Kadisha

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A brief description of the committees and their roles follows:


Religious Practices

In conjunction with the Rabbi, determines the schedule and other details pertaining to the religious services and practices at Beth Ami. Encourage and develop higher levels of participation and skill in all matters of religious observance at the synagogue and in the home. Assists the Rabbi in implementing decisions of halacha and liturgy. Function of Religious Practices Committee
Chair Lee Feinstein

Sub Committee: Cemetery Committee
Supervises arrangements for members needs.

Subcommittee: Kitchen Committee
Encourages the use of the synagogue kitchen by and for congregants. Ensures that all users of the committee are familiar with synagogue policies regarding Kashrut, safety, hygiene and security. Seeks to establish a vibrant culinary community and provide rich and varied feasts for onegs, Kiddush luncheons, and other synagogue events.


Youth and Education

Creates and implements new classes and programs that encourage participation in Jewish learning.. Develops the schedules, engages the instructors, produces the publicity, and assumes all responsibility for the creation of new programs. Advises the Board and Staff on matters of program generation and execution.

Subcommittee: Nursery School
Works with the Nursery School director to develop, implement, and support school programs and activities.

Subcommittee: Religious School
Works with the Religious School Director to develop and support Religious School programs and activities

Subcommittee: Youth Activities Committee
Works with Youth Advisors to support youth programs and activities

Subcommittee: Adult Education
Works with Rabbi and staff to develop ongoing study courses, lectures and guest speakers


Welcomes new members to the synagogue, and acquaints them with various aspects of synagogue programs. Encourages unaffiliated Jews to consider joining the synagogue. Seeks out inactive members to renew their interest and participation in synagogue life. Interviews members who have recently left the synagogue, and discusses their comments with the Board. Advises the Board on policies that may impact the attraction and retention of members.

Subcommittee: Welcoming Committee
May supplement the Board as greeters at Shabbat services. May provide a table with information for visitors to our synagogue. Assures that visitors are noticed, introduced, and made to feel at home. Follows up, where possible, with visitors.

Subcommittee: Chavurah
Actively engages congregants (who wish to be included) in existing Chaverot, and creates new Chaverot as members request. Communicates guidelines for choosing a Chavurah. Reviews existing guidelines for membership and programming, and makes suggestions as appropriate.

Subcommittee: Chesed Committee
Supervises the well being synagogue members in times of need and difficulty. May visit the sick, visit the physically and socially challenged, and may assist and comfort in times of bereavement, family illness, or other need.

Budget and Finance

Oversees and reports on the fiscal health of the congregation. The Committee reviews the monthly balance sheets, profit and loss statement and the department detail reports, reviews the draft budget compiled and prepared by Executive Director and makes recommendations to the board. The budget and finance committee also works with the bookkeeper and CBA office staff on maintaining proper accounting procedure.

Capital Campaign
Organizes fundraising for capital improvements and their associated finances.

Fund Raising, Development, and Special Events

Responsible for organizing and coordinating activities to generate revenue for operation and endowment, consistent with the values of the synagogue. Supervises the Gift Shop

Fundraising and Special Events Committee
Plans and organizes special events designed for community building and fundraising.

Subcommittee: Gift Shop
Stocks and supervises the gift shop.

Israel Affairs Committee

The Israel Affairs Committee has a CLEAR mission to:
Communicate with the community regarding Israel-related and Masorti issues,
Learn more about current affairs related to Israel, including the Masorti movement,
Educate the community about Israel, including the Masorti movement,
Act positively to provide a love of the Jewish State and
React in response to political anti-Semitism.

Building and Grounds

Responsible for the maintenance and upkeep of synagogue-owned buildings and grounds, Advises the Board on matters of insurance coverage, renovations, repairs, possible economies in utility usage, and long term capital improvements. Supervises renovations and construction projects.

Subcommittee : Aesthetics and Décor
Supervises the décor of the synagogue.

Subcommittee : Security
Supervises security issues for the synagogue.

Social Action

Develops programs to further the commitment to the entire extended Jewish Community, and to Israel. Organizes social and political action consistent with our Jewish values. Develops positive relations with the general community

Personnel Committee

Establishes policies for employment at CBA: provides leadership in hiring and terminating employees, including Rabbi and Executive Director; establishes vehicles and timetables for annual reviews of all employees; creates and updates employee handbook.

Leadership Development/ Board Operations

Develops and administers training programs for synagogue leadership roles. Supervises Board Trainings for new Board members. Monitors compliance with current By-Laws, and recommends By-Laws changes when appropriate. Functions as the parliamentarian at Board meetings. Acts as the Nominating Committee for elections.

Communications Committee

Supervises the synagogue web page. Makes suggestions for web page changes, and supervises their implementation. Develops, as appropriate, suggestions for on line resources and on line learning. Supervises the Cyber Shul and the Shofar. Assists other committees and organizers in carrying out their publicity for CBA events, both to the Sonoma County Jewish Community, and the General Community.

Subcommittee: Web guru

Library Committee

Oversees the operation of the library. Encourages appropriate use of the library. Supervises the use of library supplies and materials, including computer and on-line sources. Supervises the recruiting and training of volunteer staff. Advises the Board on all issues relating to the library

Friedman Center

Friedman Center Board Chair: Bill Friedman

Guides and Checklists for Organizing Events

To help events or programs run smoothly, the office now has a Program and Event Planning Guide.
CBA Program and Event Planning Guide
CBA Publicity Guidelines
CBA Cleanup Guidelines
CBA Equipment Use Guidelines
CBA set-up form

Guidelines for using the kitchen